People are cold here

America's a funny place- people have all the money in the world but their hearts can be incredibly small.

His mother expressed her displeasure at my staying over at his grandmothers' for a night. I understand, but at the same time, I was also hurt and I began to cry as I hung up the phone, partly because I was taken aback and partly because I realized how different cultures can be. However, it's not the cultural difference that bothers me- heck, I follow a Bohemian kind of lifestyle myself, so I do not adhere to any specific culture's practices. But I do observe them.

I appreciate his grandmother's hospitality and I genuinely love how sweet she is to me. His mother was extremely kind when she met me, so it comes as a surprise when she mentioned to him that she was not the biggest fan of my staying the night over at his grandmothers'. First of all, it's not like I do it all the time. Secondly, one of the two nights when this actually did happen, I had just returned from a trip and my home is 20 something miles from his grandma's. In the name of humanity, if nothing else, I would let a kid stay. Heck, if my son loved a woman, I'd do anything in my power to make her feel welcome and at home. In fact, my home would be her home. I made a mental note to myself to never say the same thing that his mother said to my own family or children- they would be welcome to bring home anyone they love. In the end, when I was done with my crying, I looked in the mirror, smiled and forgave his mother for being petty. I forgave myself as well for overstepping boundaries and becoming too comfortable with his grandmother too soon (What could i do? I miss my grandparents so much that when I see someone else's, I jump at the opportunity to talk to them). Life's not worth holding grudges, especially if it's your future mother in law in question. This is just be beginning.